So, a few of weeks ago I read/listened to a pair of posts/podcasts by Gretchen Rubin:
I know that just looking at the title of each of those seems like a major contradiction, but Gretchen Rubin has these “Secrets of Adulthood” that she lives by and one of those is
The opposite of a profound truth is also true.
Her two podcasts are about being successful and applying for a job, but I took the idea to heart in regards to self-care. It draws back to the topic I was writing about last week in my course review of the Inclusivity Training I did where Chelsea reminded us over and over again to
Drink as you pour.
If I am to take care of myself I need to check all of the boxes and make myself into the person I want to be; this will help me to be happy and is the only thing I truly have control over. I need to meet my own expectations. I need to push myself to be the best that I can. I need to think positively about myself and my own capabilities.
But, I also don’t need to check all of the boxes for anyone else, or even, sometimes myself. Sometimes it’s okay to spend the entire day in my pajamas lounging on the couch and watching tv with my kids. Sometimes it’s okay to eat pancakes from the fridge in the middle of the day. Sometimes it’s okay to say no to a workout.
The key is balance. I’m in the middle of a big project in my life and some of that means checking the boxes off to meet a goal I have. This would include
- Getting in my 4 runs each week
- Trying to be active each day
- Avoiding eating as many animal products as possible
- Choosing to eat less processed food
- Making time to breathe and to meditate
- Reading more
- Writing more
- Spending more time playing with my children
- Taking care of myself when I need it
This is all part of My Best Body Happiness Project that was inspired by reading Rubin’s first book. I think that something inside of me has been trying to get back to this idea of balance lately. I will be writing on Thursday about where I am in my project and Friday will be a book review from the last book I read.
Currently though, Gretchen Rubin is helping me again as the next book on my reading list was Better than Before, her book about habits that introduces the Four Tendencies (I’m an Obliger). There will be a lot more self-care going on, a lot more meditation/reflection, and I’m sure that I’ll learn a lot more about myself and my habits as I go through this new book.
Have you read Better than Before?
What do you do for self-care?
What boxes do you not check?