Things I’m celebrating include my uncle’s birthday, continuing to be consistent in my “good habits”, and I took the little one out for a free ice cream cup because he earned it for having read 3 sets of BOB books. When they finish a book or book set I let them choose the “reward”. Last time it was chocolate almond milk and for the next set (he’s already half way through) he wants balloons. Not always food related.
I’m also just celebrating life. That’s what my word of the day reminded me to do. To just keep loving my life or change it if I don’t.
And that’s what this Habit Project is all about. I was working through a few of Rubin’s strategies and trying to decide what my best formula for being successful at my “Good” habits (the ones I want to have) will be. Here are the three areas I’ve been considering:
1.Abstinence vs. Moderation – I’d like to think that I’m a moderator…..but truthfully I think that I’m the type of person who needs to be all in or all out with most things. This has been particularly true when it comes to eating habits for me. I think I’ve gotten better about being an eating moderator now that I have decided that (for the most part) I don’t want to eat animal products. Last night we had tacos (it was t-ball night) and the kids chose black beans and cheese quesadillas with a side of refried beans. I had two tacos with black beans, refried beans, rice, lettuce, guac, and cilantro. I went back and forth about adding cheese and/or sour cream. I also wasn’t sure what to do about buying queso dip for the chips. That one was easier because they kids decided they wanted tomatillo salsa for chips and I didn’t want the queso just for me. I find it harder to abstain if others are not. I ended up with sour cream on my tacos, but would have been totally satisfied without it due to the creamy nature of the guac. I don’t know why I gave into it. I think I need to be an abstainer on my own in order to be a moderator with others.
2. Convenience – We all know that if something is easier to do, you’re more likely to do it. For me I sometimes post from my phone (even though they’re not pretty posts), but it means that the posting gets done. I answer emails from my phone now and my tablet. I have three devices that allow me to do “work”. They also all allow me to read blogs, check the news and the weather, and take/organize pictures of my children.
Remember the idea of “Spending Out” from Rubin’s first book? I read an article recently about people being happier who spend money on things like Uber rides, maids, and online grocery shopping.
Because, like the title suggests, it saves time. Convenience of equipment is what has kept me working out over the past 6 years that I haven’t had a gym at my ready. However, I haven’t been swimming or lifting weights (two things I’m adding back in this fall) regularly because of lack of access. I also haven’t done triathlons since before I was pregnant with my first son because of lack of equipment and money.
3. Inconvenience – Equally as important to stopping “Bad” habits is making them inconvenient. I’ve stopped buying cheese unless we need it for a meal with friends or on the nights that it’s “meat night”. I want to stop buying ice cream, eggs, and butter also, but I’m not the only one in the house. I’ve stopped buying as many snack foods and started baking our own muffins again. But food is not the only area in which I need to abstain and make things more inconvenient for me to get to them.
I’ve been talking a lot about being consistent. That I think is one of the first habits I want to cultivate. Second would be finishing things. Third would be decluttering. And fourth would have to be attitude changes. I am trying very hard in life to be a positive person…..hence the theme of the word of the day. I’ve always been a sucker for a quote or cat poster. But….. can you make bad attitudes less convenient?
Is attitude even a habit?
This is the question I’d love your input on the most!