How do you balance give and take in your life?
I have been doing a lot of meditation on self-love lately and realizing that some of that talk is very one sided. It asks you to give to yourself and not so much to others. But it doesn’t focus on allowing yourself to take from others so much.
I was reading on The Wellness Inventory today in the self-love study center and came across the Statement Commentary called It is OK for me to be out-of-balance, vulnerable, or in need.
I have used this one in the past to write this post: Wellness Wednesday #2 – I Am A Glorious Series of Contradictions
I Am A Glorious Series of Contradictions
For me, Self Love and Responsibility have been about knowing that it’s okay to be out of balance from time to time; to share that experience with others being vulnerable and in need. It’s been about increasing that interdependence and asking for help from time to time. It’s about accepting life without expectation of outcome and accepting the outcome of my decisions when they reveal themselves. It’s about learning that giving only to others doesn’t fulfill all that I need, but it does complete me.
I am making more time for self-care as I and my children get older. I do it through physical activity, meditation, getting more sleep, journaling, making time to read more, and trying to make sure the world I surround myself with fits my model of self love. I am trying to learn more about how to be accountable and accepting of my choices as well as how to learn from the ones that didn’t serve me. I am growing more assertive and responsible for my ultimate outcome in life. And I’m trying to be more kind to myself by letting go of some outcomes.
Today I also saw this quote on a blog that I follow:
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving
to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief
that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect,
we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame,
judgement, and shame. It’s a shield.
I am having the kind of day in which I wish I were supported by others. I wish that my self-love was more like others loving me and holding me up. I need to feel loved for who I am today by more than just myself. I am facing difficult challenges and today, the give and take doesn’t feel like I have received enough. Today I want to take. Today I want to take someone’s hand/shoulder/support and lean in to it. I want to feel held and seen and like it’s okay to be me and that I don’t have to do life alone.
I am strong most days, today is just not one of those day.
Can you ask for love when you need it?
Do you know what I love about Mondays? Everything. It’s a new start of the week, it’s a fresh page in my planner, it’s back to things as usual.
Today I woke up late because I had left my phone upstairs, not plugged in, and I never heard my alarm. I missed doing yoga and mediation before others got up. I slept in 2 extra hours!
Most people would be going crazy if this happened to them. Not me, it’s Monday. Whenever I start my Monday it’s a fresh start…..
So far today I have caught up on housecleaning, finished my planned work for the day, and it’s only 2:15pm. Two hours were not lost, they were just used for something else.
Monday is a chance to restart your outlook on everything. Forget the first of the month or the first of the year or the first day of school/work……let’s try starting fresh on Mondays.
When do you wipe your slate clean?
This past week has been a little bit better in the checking off things department. However, yesterday I didn’t get a chance to do a Wellness Wednesday post because my Wellness Inventory account was closed for most of the day. I was able to do a little work on myself there today, but I didn’t want to post late.
Instead, I opted to post today about a meditation/podcast I did this week. I used my Insight Timer app to finally listen to a podcast about self-love. It started out in a way that reminded me so much of SNL’s Delicious Dish segments that I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to take it seriously. I decided to listen to the podcast while I did my yoga practice since I felt it wasn’t the same as a meditation. This had both positives (two birds with one stone) and negatives (my kids often talk through my physical practice and it was sometimes hard to focus on both the posture/breath work and their discussion).
I really don’t know how people listen to podcasts while they drive!
But, I just wanted to share one thought from the podcast with you today:
You are searching for what you’re searching with.
I am sure that this will mean something different to each of you, so I encourage you to share how that phrase resonates with you…..
I am using the Insight Timer app (and no, I’m not sponsored by them….I don’t even have a paid account) and my practice this last two weeks has been really sporadic. Why? Because I think I’m a little ashamed that I meditate.
Continue reading “Meditation Monday #57 – Do you SHARE about your meditation practice?”
I’ve been going strong on meditation now for the past couple of weeks. I am using the Insight Timer app (and no, I’m not sponsored by them….I don’t even have a paid account) and have now worked my way fully through the Self-Esteem section for Beginners. But, when I meditate, I break the rules a little……
Continue reading “Meditation Monday #56 – How to Meditate – Body Position”
Over sixteen years ago I started doing yoga for real…..well, sort of. In May of 2004 I was asked to teach my first yoga class as part of an internship for my degree program. It took me many more years to get to where I am today…. Continue reading “16 Years of Yoga – On A Roll”
Last week I wrote about a meditation practice I had where the light would not stay still. Since that time I have downloaded the Insight Timer app and have started to use their meditations for Self Love since that’s the area I am focusing on. Recently I was doing a meditation called Get Your Glow On and had a very strange experience. Continue reading “Smoke Filled Glow”
I have finally reached the end of all of my yoga stories from my students. This will be the last one unless others decide to share. I hope you have enjoyed this series and I hope to be back next week with my own new yoga story…..It’s been a lot more than 12 years now.
Silent Strength by Serenity Shaw
Me and yoga have been in an on and off relationship for years, I took my first yoga class when I was training on Naval Air Station Pensacola. Whenever a base gym had a class I would drop in, and when I was stationed in Cherry Point near Atlantic Beach I found some really cool studios nearby that I attended frequently. I loved the flexibility aspect but could never get balance poses because of my lack of strength. As my love for lifting increased, I had the strength but tended away from yoga. Some of my mental health struggles turned me away from practicing, sitting in silence meditating in my own thoughts seemed like the worst thing possible. That was a reason I enrolled in this class, I knew I couldn’t miss it and would have to practice and actually meditate.
I love the movement and being able to get more in tune with your body from a fitness aspect, but also all the different kinds of meditation really helped with keeping my focus on something positive. I wasn’t afraid to sit in silence anymore and I even started journaling again. On a physical side, yoga has shown me to listen to my body more and not go full throttle in the gym all the time which resulted in constantly injuring myself. I also have been able to finally do a handstand in my own practice and have been able to hold crow longer then before. I plan to keep a yoga flow as a cool down in the gym, to keep flexibility and as an activity for active rest days in my workout plan. I truly enjoyed the class and the positive environment all the students provided.
Have a yoga story you’d like to share?
Contact me to do a Guest Post of your own.
It has been raining here…. a lot. And not just on the outside. This week has been a tough one for me emotionally. I have not been able to sleep well and when I do sleep, it’s too much. 6am is not the usual getting up time this week. I have skipped a lot of meditations and one yoga. It’s only Thursday.
Continue reading “TOLT #83 – Losing the Light”
It’s been almost a year since I wrote my own Meditation Monday post…..it’s been almost as long since I really dedicated time to my own meditation. Lately I’ve been using small meditation sessions on YouTube in the early morning hours when I actually get up at 6am and do some yoga. It’s helping.
Last week I was doing some yoga (not in the morning) and Erin Motz said to
go for symmetry before depth; the depth will come naturally
Although she was talking about pigeon pose; this really made me think about life in general and how we all need balance. That all of the great and wonderful experiences in life only come when you have balance. Maybe it’s me being a Libra and loving balance and justice, but I truly feel that all of life needs BALANCE before everything else.
I wonder if this is a hint about last week’s Wellness Wednesday question….where to start?